Muddy Fingerprints

One of my favorie things....

2012-01-12T09:18:00.001-05:00

is when my babies laugh.

Hospital Birth??

2011-09-28T11:51:00.004-04:00

Just think about that...borning your baby in a place where emergencies happen? It simply doesn't make sense. If we are low risk, why would we put ourselves in such a dangerous place for such a beautiful, natural, normal experience?

Hospitals have policies. Things like continuous electronic fetal monitoring (EFM), routine vaginal exams (usually every 2-4 hours), no walking after water breaks (which you're not doing anyway if you have EFM), and a routine IV. With the most risky being imposed time limits, yes believe it...you are on a time limit.

You will not be moving around, changing positions, rotating hips, or using gravity to assist the baby on his way down and out. Labor is harder for mom and baby under these conditions. Bottomline is that you are more likely to have a c-section with all these policies (hospitals with these type of policies have a 60% c-section rates). And if you MUST deliver your baby in a hospital, use a doula and/or have a strong willed partner to help stop all these unnesscesary actions.

Thank goodness my first birth was a wonderful hospital birth (my second was in a birth center) but I had two weapons, an educated husband and fantastic doula, who knew the right things to say to all of the nurses. It went well, we stuck to our plan of laboring mostly at home then, in the bathroom at the hospital. The nurses left us alone, for the most part. I achieved a natural childbirth and had a great birth experience thanks to educating myself. Do that for you and your baby, it is the biggest day of your lives!

Welcoming Mason

2011-08-19T21:49:00.017-04:00

Welcoming Mason. The Birth Story of my beautiful boy.

It was Fathers Day 2011, my due date. I woke up from my nap around 2:00pm with tiny contractions. Excitedly, I mentioned to my husband Sam that I thought today might be the day baby Mason arrived! We continued our day as usual, and that evening I was able to sleep through most of the contractions until early morning.

My husband woke up around 4:30am because of my heavy breathing. He encouraged me to get up and eat breakfast in order to have as much energy as possible. After breakfast, I continued laboring and Mitchell, our 2 ½ year old son, helped massage my back and brought me water just as we had been practicing for several months. At this point, we knew the baby was on his way so Sam began making calls to prepare everyone. We had Grammy pick Mitchell up in order to create a more calming environment for laboring. I rested and ate lunch as the contractions continued to get closer together. We went swimming and held each other close to focus on my breath during each contraction. Being outside and in the arms of my husband made the moment seem so peaceful. After the swim, my contractions became very intense and ranged 3-4 minutes apart.

Around 4:00pm labor became fast and strong. My husband called our doula, Robyn, and when she arrived I remember hearing concern in her voice. I knew it was time to go. Since my contractions were so strong, Robyn rode with us. As the van crept through 5 o'clock traffic (something we hadn’t planned on), she helped me through at least five strong contractions. What a sight I must have been, moaning and sitting backwards in the vehicle!

Once we arrived at Breath of Life Birth Center, my midwife Vikki greeted us with the warmest smile. She pointed to Room #3, which we had originally requested. I asked her to check my dilation after agreeing not to be disappointed, no matter what the outcome. Relieved that I was already 7cm and complete, I practically jumped into the Jacuzzi tub! I moved around continuously, relaxing as much as possible. Remembering my Bradley Method training, I got out of the tub and roamed around the room to try different labor positions. I felt very free and simply did whatever my body wanted. The water was the most comfortable, so I got back into the tub. I remember yelling, grunting and using sounds to help push while my husband and doula kept massaging me. Apparently, my internal dialog became vocal to everyone as I encouraged Mason to come while reminding myself that I could do it.

As the hours passed, I was becoming extremely tired. Vikki observed my pushing technique and coached me to use more of my back end. With that, my pushing changed dramatically and the next thing I knew I heard and felt the powerful pop of my water breaking. Beforehand, we all thought this boy was going to be posterior and that made me nervous. But my labor was only in the front, never in my back.

Ten minutes and a couple pushes later, at 8:49pm, Mason Samuel Irmis was born. When he was descending through my birth canal I felt him twisting and turning the entire time. Even after his head was out I still felt his feet kicking my insides, it was the craziest feeling ever! Sam placed him on my chest and we were able to feel the cord pulsating, which was fascinating. I remember feeling so relieved once my baby was in my arms and I could feel his sweet spirit. My breath was filled with joy. Once the cord stopped pulsating, Sam cut it and I stayed in the tub to deliver my placenta.

Moments after Mason was born, while I was still in the tub, our other son Mitchell arrived. I asked, “Can we keep him?” Mitchell replied, “Yes.” I was so thrilled we were all able to share such a special moment of time together as a complete family.

My hubby was my rock. I am so lucky to have two healthy boys and very thankful to have such a passionate husband to help me through life. Breath of Life helped our family achieve a harmonious birth. We are so grateful!

You Always Miss Mom

2011-08-07T10:23:00.004-04:00

Whenever I see a commercial about mothers and daughters, I miss my mom.

Whenever I imagine me and my boys in the future, I miss my mom.

Eventhough it's been over a year not a day goes by that I don't miss my mom. I wish Mason could've met her.

Happy World Breastfeeding Week

2011-08-02T16:15:00.003-04:00

Happy World Breastfeeding Week August 1-7

Baby Mason is born

2011-08-01T11:25:00.004-04:00

Mason was born on June 20, 2011 at 8:49pm at Breath of Life birthing center as a beautiful waterbirth. Here is the post from our midwife right after he arrived:

FACEBOOK POST: "We're joyously welcoming an adorable and peaceful little man this evening. He was gently waterborn at 2049 and promptly went back to sleep on his mama's chest, seemingly at peace with the whole situation. Big brother was here to shower love and kisses on him and mom had an awesome husband/doula team to support her! Happy birthday, little guy!"

Always Learning!

2011-03-25T11:13:00.003-04:00

I’m working on my becoming a Bradley Instructor and plan to begin teaching natural childbirth after the summer. When I look back I realize why it took me so long to complete college (I was 30 years old). It wasn't that my job(s) caused the delay; it was that I love learning new things and growing as a person.

As a freelance graphic designer, there are always new creative aspects to observe, marketing trends to follow and the latest software to learn. I think these new experiences has helped continued my career for so long. Now, as a parent, I am consumed with reading and educating myself on how to become a patient, encouraging parent for my children, something I take pretty seriously.

My first entry in my blog was about my birth story. Then, it evolved into a photo gallery for my family up north. Now it has become an on-line passion for natural childbirth. My hope is that the information can help continue ignite conversations about how unnecessarily complicated childbirth has become in America. We need to resort to more instinctual body awareness and take control of our births.

Feel free to join in my conversations at anytime, I love feedback ;)

It's Offical...

2011-03-24T14:59:00.003-04:00

I will be training in Orlando in April 2011, to become a Bradley Instructor! YIPPEE!

To become a teacher, there were several requirements that I needed to meet. First, these books must be read (thank goodness I read most of them already):
Husband Coached Childbirth by Dr. Robert Bradley
Natural Childbirth The Bradley Way by Susan Mc Cutcheon-Rosegg, AAHCC
Children at Birth (currently out of print) by Mrjie and Jay Hathaway, AAHCC
Assistants Coach's Manual by Susan Bek, AAHCC
Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche League International

They also recommend the following books:
Obstetrics Illustrated by Miller/Callander
Emergency Childbirth by Dr Gregory White
The THINKING WOMANS GUIDE to a BETTER BIRTH by Henci Goer
The Birth Book by Dr. William & Martha Sears (one of my favorites)
Metabolic Toxemia of Late Pregnancy by Dr. Thomas Brewer
Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering by Dr. Sarah Buckley

And there was a questionnaire I had to answer in lengthy detail. These are two of the most personal questions they asked:

Why should your application be accepted?

Natural birth and a woman's ability to give life without intervention and medication was a life changing moment for me. I would love to share and teach people the confidence and knowledge of my passion of natural childbirth the Bradley way.

What do you feel you have going for you? Your strong points?

I am a hardworking, passionate, educated person. I own and run my own business and find being my own boss is challenging and rewarding, very similar to parenthood. During my first pregnancy I became focused and consumed with natural childbirth and wanted to spread my knowledge. Now, in my second pregnancy, I have an experienced, passionate voice for promoting the beauty of natural childbirth.

The Business of Being Born

2011-02-22T12:31:00.005-05:00

My passion of natural childbirth has grown tremendously since I became pregnant for the first time in 2008. Now that I am pregnant again, I want to share my passion of natural childbirth and teach the valuable tools I have learned through research and my birth experience by teaching natural childbirth the Bradley way.

But when people ask me how I decided to have a natural childbirth, I think back to only 3 months before my first baby was born and realize my decision was made after I watched The Business of Being Born, an impressive documentary. After I watched with amazement, I began researching all types of natural birthing and delivery methods. The Bradley Method, appealed to my husband and I so we joined a class and submerged ourselves in three months of training. We were lucky enough to have a successful natural birth at a hospital, with help from a Doula and an educated mindset.

I highly recommend watching The Business of Being Born, and even if it doesn't move you at least it will open your eyes.

Here is the synopsis:

Birth is a miracle, a rite of passage, a natural part of life. But birth is also big business.

Compelled to explore the subject after the delivery of her first child, actress Ricki Lake recruits filmmaker Abby Epstein to question the way American women have babies.

The film interlaces intimate birth stories with surprising historical, political and scientific insights and shocking statistics about the current maternity care system. When director Epstein discovers she is pregnant during the making of the film, the journey becomes even more personal.

Should most births be viewed as a natural life process, or should every delivery be treated as a potentially catastrophic medical emergency?

The Brewer Pregnancy Diet

2011-02-22T12:02:00.005-05:00

The Brewer Pregnancy Diet - In memory of Dr. Tom Brewer November 2005

Dr. Tom Brewer was a pioneer in women's health. At a time when doctors were trying to treat symptoms of Preeclampsia, Dr. Brewer attacked the problem at its cause: poor nutrition. He learned very quickly that when a woman is given the tools to make good nutritional decisions, she will eat healthy.

Dr. Brewer first recommended his high protein pregnancy diet to women in his practice in the 1960's. He served women from a very poor community whose families had passed on seriously flawed cooking and eating habits. When he implemented his program, the health of the women and babies was better than that of their well educated neighbors. During his 12 years in practice over 25,000 women experienced healthy pregnancies with his diet. Dr. Brewer's research demonstrates that good nutrition can help prevent still birth, premature birth, preeclampsia, anemia, placental abruption, infection and miscarriage.

The Brewer diet focuses mainly on adequate protein intake during pregnancy and is traditionally taught in Bradley Method® Childbirth Classes (which I plan on teaching by the end of the year).
Dr. Brewer's work is to be continued by the Brewer Institute, a privately funded organization that will begin operations in 2006.

Most Importantly, PROTEIN! PROTEIN! PROTEIN!
Proteins are broken down into amino acids by your body and used to repair body tissues and organs. Your baby will be built from these amino acids. Contrary to popular belief, you can not build a baby from the extra stores of fat on your hips (although, wouldn’t that be nice!) Inadequate protein intake can lead to fatigue, swelling, and even a lack of appetite.

The average non-pregnant person needs approximately 56 grams of protein per day. Dr. Brewer recommends the pregnant woman aim for 80 – 100 grams of protein per day. This may seem like a lot of protein to eat in one day but if you consider that a 3 ounce piece of chicken (which is about the size of a credit card) has 20 grams of protein one can easily obtain 80 grams. Oh, and check out a good healthy peanut butter, the one I eat has 10 grams of protein in 2 tablespoons! Yum! Yogurt and cottage cheese are also quick, easy to eat, high-packed protein foods.

Although my focus is protein, the diet consists of many more healthy combos, but to me, protein is crucial.
You must have, every day, at least: *

1. Milk and milk products--4 choices
1 cup milk: whole, skim,1%, buttermilk
1/2 cup canned evaporated milk: whole or skim
1/3 cup powdered milk:whole or skim
1 cup yogurt
1 cup sour cream
1/4 cup cottage cheese: creamed, uncreamed, pot style
1 large slice cheese (1 1/4 oz): cheddar, Swiss, other hard cheese
1 cup ice milk
1 1/2 cup soy milk
1 piece tofu, 3"x3"x 1/2" (4 oz)

2. Calcium replacements--as needed (2 per soy exchange from group 1)
36 almonds
1/3 cup bok choy, cooked
12 Brazil nuts
1 cup broccoli, cooked
1/3 cup collard greens
1/2 cup kale
2 teaspoons blackstrap molasses
4 oz black olives
1 oz sardines

3. Eggs--2 any style

4. Protein Combinations--6 to 8 choices**
1 oz lean beef, lamb, pork, liver, or kidney
1 oz chicken or turkey
1 oz fish or shell fish***
1/4 cup canned salmon or tuna
3 sardines
3 1/2 oz tofu
1/4 cup peanuts or peanut butter****
1/8 cup beans + 1/4 cup rice or wheat
(measured before cooking)
beans: soy beans, peas, black beans, kidney beans, garbanzos
rice: preferably brown
wheat: preferably bulgar
1/8 cup brewer's yeast + 1/4 cup rice
1/8 cup sesame or sunflower seeds + 1/2 cup cup rice
1/4 cup rice + 1/3 cup milk
1/2 oz cheese + 2 slices whole wheat bread or 1/3 cup macaroni (dry) or noodles or 1/8 cup beans
1/8 cup beans + 1/2 cup cornmeal
1/8 cup beans + 1/6 cup seeds (sesame, sunflower)
1/2 large potato + 1/4 cups milk or 1/4 oz cheese
1 oz cheese: cheddar, Swiss, other hard cheese
1/4 cup cottage cheese: creamed, uncreamed, pot style

5. Fresh, dark green vegetables--2 choices
1 cup broccoli
1 cup brussels sprouts
2/3 cup spinach
2/3 cup greens
collard, turnip, beet, mustard, dandelion, kale
1/2 cup lettuce (preferable romaine)
1/2 cup endive
1/2 cup asparagus
1/2 cup sprouts: bean, alfalfa

Adapted from Right from the Start, by Gail Brewer and Janice Presser Greene, from The Pregnancy After 30 Workbook, edited by Gail Brewer, and from The Brewer Medical Diet for Normal and High-Risk Pregnancy, by Gail Brewer and Tom Brewer, MD.

* Each food you eat may be counted for one group only (in other words, count 1/4 cup cottage cheese as either 1 milk choice or 1 protein combination choice, not both).

**Different Brewer sources recommend different numbers of servings for this food group. Each 1 oz. serving provides 7 grams of protein.

--What Every Pregnant Woman Should Know(1977)--2 servings (3 oz. each)

--The Pregnancy After 30 Workbook(1978)--2 servings

--Right from the Start(1981)--8 servings (1 oz. each)

--The Brewer Medical Diet for Normal and High Risk Pregnancy(1983)--6 servings (1 oz. each)

--The Very Important Pregnancy Program(1988)--6 servings (1 oz. each)

See the last question on my FAQ page.

***Due to mercury content, do not eat shark, swordfish, king mackerel, or tilefish
--You may eat up to 12 oz a week of a variety of fish and shellfish that are lower in mercury:
shrimp, canned light tuna, salmon, pollock, catfish
--Albacore ("white") tuna has more mercury than canned light tuna, so you may eat up to 6 oz of albacore tuna per week.

****Some sources suggest that one possible source of peanut allergies in children may be an excess consumption of peanuts by their mothers during their pregnancy. If you know of any documentation about this, please let me know.

Here's one source of peanut allergy information

Here's another source for info about peanuts and soft cheeses

See Q&A section here for info on why not to use protein drinks

See here for information on the hazards of herbal diuretics in pregnancy

What is The Bradley Method?

2011-02-17T07:33:00.007-05:00

The Bradley Childbirth Method was developed by Robert Bradley, an American obstetrician, in the late 1940s. Bradley’s belief is that childbirth is a natural process, and women can prepare themselves mentally, physically, and emotionally to avoid routine medical interventions and pain medication during labor and delivery. The duration of the Bradley Childbirth Method program is 12 weeks, making it longer and more intensive than most other childbirth education programs. It is a comprehensive program that includes instruction on pregnancy, birth, and postpartum issues. One of the other primary goals of the Bradley Childbirth Method program is to educate partners to be supportive and effective labor coaches.

Classes are usually limited to eight couples in order to provide a more intimate, interactive learning experience. The topics covered include prenatal nutrition and its impact on a healthy pregnancy, exercise during pregnancy, pregnancy symptoms and complaints and how to cope with them, and relaxation techniques during labor and birth. Relaxed and natural breathing methods are emphasized as a coping mechanism to deal with the intense pain of labor. Mothers are taught to “tune in” and manage pain, instead of distracting themselves from it as other methods teach. The Bradley Childbirth Method class also instructs partners in effective labor coaching. Couples also learn about the different stages of labor and how to cope with the transitions between them.

The Bradley Method®: From the official site:

The Bradley Method® teaches natural childbirth and views birth as a natural process. It is our belief that most women with proper education, preparation, and the help of a loving and supportive coach can be taught to give birth naturally. The Bradley Method® is a system of natural labor techniques in which a woman and her coach play an active part. It is a simple method of increasing self-awareness, teaching a woman how to deal with the stress of labor by tuning in to her own body. The Bradley Method® encourages mothers to trust their bodies using natural breathing, relaxation, nutrition, exercise, and education.

What are the goals of The Bradley Method®?

1. Natural childbirth.

2. Active participation by the husband as coach.

3. Excellent nutrition (the foundation of a healthy pregnancy and baby).

4. Avoidance of drugs during pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding, unless absolutely necessary. No drug has been proven safe for an unborn baby.

5. Training: "Early Bird" classes followed by weekly classes starting in the 5th month and continuing until the birth.

6. Relaxation and NATURAL breathing - can be effective pain management techniques with training according to the National Institutes of Health.

7. "Tuning-in" to your own body and trusting the natural process.

8. Immediate and continuous contact with your new baby.

9. Breastfeeding, beginning at birth provides immunities and nutrition.

10. Consumerism and positive communications.

11. Parents taking responsibility for the safety of the birth place, procedures, attendants, and emergency back-up.

12. Parents being prepared for unexpected situations such as emergency childbirth and cesarean section.

Bio

2011-02-13T10:36:00.006-05:00

Bio

My name is Laura. This is my family.

I have been blogging about natural childbirth and my life since May 2008. I am an advocate on issues of importance to parents, women and children. I regularly use my blog as a platform to create awareness and to advocate natural childbirth only because I want to share what I have learned with other Mothers. My hope is that they too can step out and make birth choices for themselves, as oppose to allowing someone else to dictate their decisions.

My parenting philosophy and me

I’m the mother of one boy and due with another boy in June 2011.
I believe firmly in attachment parenting and find that this approach is very instinctual to me. I breastfeed, babywear, and (try to) co-sleep. I do not spank or let my children “cry it out”.
I am not religious (but I do have an open mind).
I enjoy nature and want to share the inspiring beauty of the outdoors with my children.
I care about the environment and try to make choices in parenting and life with the environment in mind.
I respect my child. I treat him with compassion and talk to him like a little adult.
I believe in diversity and want my children to be exposed to diversity on all levels.
I am an entrepreneur. I am a professional ceramic artist and graphic designer. I became my own boss before my son was born to have more flexibility to spend time with my family. My husband works as a warehouse manager and plays a mean Gibson guitar.
I read to my child. I believe that books can guide creativity. Most of my personal reading right now is parenting books.
I enjoy the beach, spending time with my family and eating really good food.

Questions? You can e-mail me at laurairmis at gmail dot com.

Ina May Gaskin

2011-02-10T13:12:00.002-05:00

"...because physiologically, birth doesn’t happen the same way around surgeons, medically trained doctors, as it does around sympathetic women. "

Ina May Gaskin

Which Childbirth Education to Choose?

2011-02-10T12:50:00.009-05:00

When a person decides they want to become a childbirth educator, the very first step is to decide who to certify with -- Lamaze, Hypnobirthing, Birthing From Within, toLabor (formerly known as ALACE), ICEA, Cappa, and of course, The Bradley Method. The requirements and costs vary depending on which program you choose. The philosophies are also different and it's important to know exactly what you believe and what you are willing to support and teach. My decision was based on my experiences.

While I was pregnant I did a ton of research on natural childbirth and decided The Bradley Method would steer me towards a completely natural childbirth and also include my husband, the person who helped start the pregnancy in the first place! Why shouldn't he help finish it?

I feel such a passion for how well the Bradley Method worked for us in both of my labor and deliveries, that I want to share with others. I will be teaching at several locations including my home, beginning this fall 2011.

What is Mother-Friendly care anyways?

2011-02-10T08:36:00.006-05:00

Since I am constantly on-line working as a freelance graphic designer, I can't help clicking on fascinating birth stories or natural childbirth headlines. I fall into reading wonderful stories from real parents. But I keep reading the phrase "Mother-Friendly" care and I have realized each author uses their own definition, which gets confusing and loses its creditability.

The Coalition for Improving Maternity Services (CIMS) has coined the phrase and here is their MISSION:
The Coalition for Improving Maternity Services (CIMS) is a coalition of individuals and national organizations with concern for the care and well being of mothers, babies, and families. Our mission is to promote a wellness model of maternity care that will improve birth outcomes and substantially reduce costs. This evidence-based mother-, baby-, and family-friendly model focuses on prevention and wellness as the alternatives to high-cost screening, diagnosis, and treatment programs.

Listed below are 10 steps that should be followed to be considered. Do not just assume that your care provider is Mother-Friendly. Always ask questions. Remember this is YOUR birth, not theirs.

Ten Steps of the Mother-Friendly Childbirth Initiative
For Mother-Friendly Hospitals, Birth Centers,* and Home Birth Services

To receive CIMS designation as “mother-friendly,” a hospital, birth center, or home birth service must carry out the above philosophical principles by fulfilling the Ten Steps of Mother-Friendly Care.

A mother-friendly hospital, birth center, or home birth service:

Offers all birthing mothers:

Unrestricted access to the birth companions of her choice, including fathers, partners, children, family members, and friends;
Unrestricted access to continuous emotional and physical support from a skilled woman—for example, a doula,* or labor-support professional;
Access to professional midwifery care.

Provides accurate descriptive and statistical information to the public about its practices and procedures for birth care, including measures of interventions and outcomes.
Provides culturally competent care—that is, care that is sensitive and responsive to the specific beliefs, values, and customs of the mother’s ethnicity and religion.
Provides the birthing woman with the freedom to walk, move about, and assume the positions of her choice during labor and birth (unless restriction is specifically required to correct a complication), and discourages the use of the lithotomy (flat on back with legs elevated) position.
Has clearly defined policies and procedures for:

collaborating and consulting throughout the perinatal period with other maternity services, including communicating with the original caregiver when transfer from one birth site to another is necessary;
linking the mother and baby to appropriate community resources, including prenatal and post-discharge follow-up and breastfeeding support.

Does not routinely employ practices and procedures that are unsupported by scientific evidence, including but not limited to the following:

shaving;
enemas;
IVs (intravenous drip);
withholding nourishment or water;
early rupture of membranes*;
electronic fetal monitoring;

Has an induction* rate of 10% or less;†
Has an episiotomy* rate of 20% or less, with a goal of 5% or less;
Has a total cesarean rate of 10% or less in community hospitals, and 15% or less in tertiary care (high-risk) hospitals;
Has a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) rate of 60% or more with a goal of 75% or more.

Educates staff in non-drug methods of pain relief, and does not promote the use of analgesic or anesthetic drugs not specifically required to correct a complication.
Encourages all mothers and families, including those with sick or premature newborns or infants with congenital problems, to touch, hold, breastfeed, and care for their babies to the extent compatible with their conditions.
Discourages non-religious circumcision of the newborn.
Strives to achieve the WHO-UNICEF “Ten Steps of the Baby-Friendly Hospital Initiative” to promote successful breastfeeding:

Have a written breastfeeding policy that is routinely communicated to all health care staff;
Train all health care staff in skills necessary to implement this policy;
Inform all pregnant women about the benefits and management of breastfeeding;
Help mothers initiate breastfeeding within a half-hour of birth;
Show mothers how to breastfeed and how to maintain lactation even if they should be separated from their infants;
Give newborn infants no food or drink other than breast milk unless medically indicated;
Practice rooming in: allow mothers and infants to remain together 24 hours a day;
Encourage breastfeeding on demand;
Give no artificial teat or pacifiers (also called dummies or soothers) to breastfeeding infants;
Foster the establishment of breastfeeding support groups and refer mothers to them on discharge from hospitals or clinics

* Glossary

Augmentation: Speeding up labor.
Birth Center: Free-standing maternity center.
Doula: A woman who gives continuous physical, emotional, and informational support during labor and birth—may also provide postpartum care in the home.
Episiotomy: Surgically cutting to widen the vaginal opening for birth.
Induction: Artificially starting labor.
Morbidity: Disease or injury.
Oxytocin: Synthetic form of oxytocin (a naturally occurring hormone) given intravenously to start or speed up labor.
Perinatal: Around the time of birth.
Rupture of Membranes: Breaking the “bag of waters.”

All care providers should be striving for a Mother-Friendly status. Ask, ask and ask! Find out if your care provider is Mother-Friendly and what they are doing to become Mother-Friendly. It's up to us to change maternity care in the US. This market is consumer driven, and you are the consumer. Demand it. You deserve it.

It's a BOY! (again)

2011-01-31T15:22:00.004-05:00

What a week! With my toddler using the potty and sleeping in his 'big boy' bed, things are happening fast.

We found out we are having another boy. There was no doubt from the ultrasound, that's for sure. We are super excited eventhough I would've doubled down that it was a girl. But I haven't even begun my list of names yet. Other than that I feel no stress. Life is good.

St. Augustine & Friends

2010-11-23T09:40:00.004-05:00

First haircut

2010-10-11T16:55:00.005-04:00

Between the hubby and myself, we always said we would wait as long as we could for Mitchell's very first haircut. But considering his hair grows as slow molasses, we trimmed it up a bit. It didn't take long and I hope we didn't scar him:

St. Augustine

2010-07-20T09:33:00.002-04:00

We try to visit St. Augustine twice a year. This was one of the cutest photos taken during our last trip. Instead of eating the sand, Mitch rolls in it. He makes us laugh and keeps us entertained. We love you Mitchy!

5 year anniversary at St. Augustine

2010-06-15T08:20:00.003-04:00

Summer Days

2010-05-24T10:06:00.003-04:00

Growing up Irmis

2010-04-07T09:53:00.004-04:00

I love the fact my friends and I have kids the same age as Mitchell. It is so entertaining to see our kids play together!

Easter is Almost Here.

2010-03-31T20:26:00.006-04:00

I love holidays. Something new to do, to look forward to and be excited about. I am a big fan of change.

This year will be the best Easter so far, I just know it! I don't remember too much about growing up celebrating Easter, keep in mind my step dad was Jewish and my Mother... well, no religion really. Needless to say, holidays were not celebrated as often. So I have vowed to celebrate all holidays that my child(ren) want too! Infact, my husband and I have already made up our own traditions, I love that about him, he is very open minded.

I had a meet-up group Easter egg hunt at Largo park yesterday so before hand we (me and grammy) taught Mitch how to hunt for easter eggs. He loved it, eventhough there wasn't any candy in them....but when the Easter bunny showed up at the park, he hid his face...he was frightened of the large walking bunny...this is the best photo I got..I wish he was cheesin' like me! Oh well, there's always next year!

These days are good. Although I am a bit stressed about some art shows coming up, creating work for a new gallery and keeping up my inventory in St Pete Clay Company and at my new home, Cakewalk Gallery .... I just wish I had more time. How do you mothers do it?

Beachtime is here!

2010-03-24T13:50:00.004-04:00

My lil' surfer boy:

Last day of fall

2010-03-18T12:27:00.002-04:00

Saltwater Ceramics Glazing movie

2010-02-10T16:10:00.002-05:00

The boy has talent

2010-02-04T08:11:00.002-05:00

15 Months

2010-01-29T07:52:00.005-05:00

Quote of the month

2010-01-13T09:29:00.002-05:00

"Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist after growing up"

Quoted from the book A Whack on the Side of the Head: How You Can Be More Creative by Roger von Oech discussing the importance of imagination and creative questioning and 'what ifs'.

My Pumpkin

2010-01-12T11:12:00.007-05:00

As the short Florida winter comes and goes, you have become quite an interesting baby boy. Your love for animals and funny gestures makes my days happy. Instead of walking you run....it is hilarious! You bounce your arms anytime you hear music and you never want to stop playing the drums, or flute, or guitar. Arts and crafts time is splendid in your world and chasing the cats gets you laughing.

I never knew how much fun it could be as a Mom. You are a sweet, outgoing and independent little boy. I am so proud of you already.

I created our Christmas card

2010-01-04T09:44:00.002-05:00

Even though Mitchell was petrified of Santa this year, I think he loved Christmas. He learned to open (rip open) presents and sing carols. It was my favorite time of the year!

Your Smile.

2009-12-04T09:25:00.002-05:00

I love it when you crinkle up your nose to laugh. I love when you tickle my belly button and laugh in that high pitched way. And when you point at everything I laugh. This year has been so amazing I want to do it all over again. I love you Mitch

New Photos

2009-11-30T13:49:00.004-05:00

Halloween 2009

2009-11-16T14:46:00.003-05:00

Magnum Opus

2009-11-16T14:43:00.005-05:00

Here are some photos from the awesome show I participated in last Saturday. It was filled with unique people, fashion, art and music. They have several shows a year but are always at the Ritz Theater a venue that is close to my heart. I have danced, moshed and drank too much at this concert hall when I was younger. My friends and family showed up to support my Re-birth Amphibious Series art work! Thanks everyone!

My Amphibious Statement (updated)

2009-10-16T11:29:00.002-04:00

I am obsessed with the ocean. I have a yearning to be submerged in the ocean's deep, mysterious environment — exploring dark corners and murky creatures while listening to tranquil sounds.

The wheel becomes an extension of my body. I create my work imagining I am a sea creature floating through the dark atmosphere, breathing in the salty water. I am captivated by the textured surfaces of the undersea environment and recreate them in my work.

The pieces I create express my emotions and awareness of our ocean's spirit. My work is intended to function as an illustration of experience and contemplation. By observing my work, the viewer accompanies me on my internal journey.

Girl Talk Thursday - Being Crafty

2009-10-15T10:46:00.008-04:00

Being artsy/crafty/creative makes up the most of me. I'm not sure when it happened, or why, I just always felt the need a way to express myself without words. As a little girl raised by my theatrical grandmother, I was always painting, drawing, or making something out of nothing. Her voice would sweep throughout our tiny home as I would draw park scenes with markers and pencils. During her shows, I was alone alot so my pretend brother and I would draw together.

I guess since my home life was "different" I needed to vent or react to it, almost in an instinctual way I suppose. I would take photographs, draw and paint everything but when I touched clay for the first time it moved me like nothing before....my eyes awoke and my heart filled clay intoxication. I submerged myself in pottery and felt this was my media. With clay I am unlimited I can create ANYTHING, I am superwoman!

I have titled my work Saltwater Ceramics so I will never steer too far from my initial inspiration, our oceans. My work is to always enlighten and inform people to protect our seas and lifeforms while evoking emotion.

I think anyone can be crafty/creative it just depends on how they view the definition.

Wanna see more?

Hello, It's me.

2009-09-25T10:23:00.007-04:00

My baby boy is officially 11 months old today...what a whirlwind it has been. I am just now realizing I never have free time anymore.

Other artists (which are my worst critics) DID mention however, that after the baby, I will never have the time to create any pottery. That they will never see me again in the art scene and basically telling me to quit doing what I love. Most of the time, I don't take what people say to heart, I simply listen but don't accept negativity. Maybe they have seen it in other artists, maybe that's what happened to them while they raised their kids...not me. I MUST CREATE, it's in my soul, my heart and it's what makes me...me.

Now is the busiest time of the year for me as a potter. With three shows coming up, I'm trying to wrap my mind around how to "find" the time to create additional work to my REbirth concept in my Amphibious Series. Perhaps I can sleep less, maybe hire a nanny or just DO IT. Which is my only option.

With the OctoberBEST coming up on October 10th, I have been focused on making oversized coffee mugs, goblets and steins to hold beverages. During this event it will be fun for all ages and when you purchase a ceramic piece, you get a free drink..BONUS! But the best part is my hubby will be playing with his band Dead End Stare from 3-5. And since Mitch loves the microphone, I hope to get him to sing a tune or two.

It's so exciting to introduce my new series to my friends, families and art lovers. I'm feeling like me again, its good to be back!

New Photos to Share

2009-09-24T12:34:00.001-04:00

Inspiration

2009-09-14T13:15:00.003-04:00

Nature is my inspiration for any work I create, whether it's ceramics or graphic design. I found a beautiful feather in my backyard and imaged a glaze that was similar. This is a perfect example of how I combine mother nature and my work:

Girl Talk Thursday - Shower Routine

2009-08-13T09:19:00.007-04:00

So my friend, and fabulous writer Mommy Melee, uses her honesty and humor in every bit of writing. She hosts these Girl Talk Thursday's and to be honest I feel a little strange even blogging. I am no writer by any means but am a creative being just with clay, paint or graphics. I started this blog for family to see my little boy grow up but she has inspired me to write more! So here goes, please ignore the grammer errors.

My bathroom routine today was VERY interesting to say the least..perfect timing for this week’s topic. I am a shower a day person, i know I know it's bad for my hair blah... but without washing it I can hardly comb it out. The curls knot up quickly, perfect for dread locks but that doesn't seem to convince my hubby.... I think he would cut them off in my sleep. Ya he has long hair and is a musician so you would think he would be down with the locks but nope, no go.

Anyways, two days ago I went all out and made a hair appointment at the new Aveda salon, Beyond. This was big. I haven't had anything done to my hair since I was pregnant and I went for it. I told Taylor I was open to suggestions. He said copper, I said do it! The cut and color looks amazing, big ups T!

I had to take a shower today and normally I take one when the boy is asleep during his morning nap, but today no way, I was dying to comb my hair out. My challenge was how to keep him happy while I take the quickest shower ever. I grabbed three toys he never plays with, sat him on the soft carpet, turned on the shower and went for it. Since it's a walk-in shower I knew this would be difficult. All of a sudden I see the curtain move and bam there he was laughing at me, as if to say, "What were you thinking momma?"

He quickly moved the curtain to the side and began reaching for anything in his sight, puddles, soap pieces and even my toes. All I got to do was wash my hair with my Pantene product and condition with my new Aveda conditioner Curls. I have used the same soap for years, Dove refreshing cucumber. I quickly lathered it all over and and that was all she wrote. My boy tried to eat his hands he soaked in the water and soap, slipped on the wet marble step and was completely drenched from the shower spray. The end result? I combed my hair and felt a little better for the day ahead.

Throw in more time, a shave here and there and that's it, that’s my routine. I try to moisturize my face after the shower everyday with Neutrogena face conditioner and sometimes I will add curl enhancers product when my hair is wet. I'm so low maintenance and don't even blow-dry my hair. Considering my low maintenance schedule, my sun habit and chlorine pool activities, I hope this new color lasts longer than a month! Here is a rough photo of the new do:

My Baby Boy

2009-08-11T10:27:00.004-04:00

Oh my little baby boy you mean the world to me. I like to watch you laugh and make those funny noises. What are you saying anyways?

My favorite is chasing you down the hall as you look back as if to say, “come on and get me.” You laugh hysterically then lay your head down on the carpet. Sometimes I laugh so hard tears fall.

I love your smile, even your fake one for the camera, it’s adorable. I like seeing your baby teeth pop out with your elaborate grin.

I love our nighttime ritual of brushy time before bed. I can tell you love the taste and the texture of the bristles on your tongue.

When you raise your hands and dance to any music it makes me and daddy dance with you. You make us act so silly!

We like watching you with other people too, it’s like you are telling a hilarious story.

We look forward to your first steps and know they are not far away. But until that day, we cherish every new moment with you!

You are my pumpkin, my pookie bear and my everything. I love you.

My Amphibious Debut

2009-08-10T11:15:00.004-04:00

During this November event i will be debuting my new work from my series "Amphibious". This work will include new forms with an entirely new glaze palette. I am also transferring photographs onto my work using laser decals. While I am nervous about these new techniques, I am very excited to be resurfacing into the art world again, it's been almost two years!

WAHM

2009-08-05T10:20:00.005-04:00

Being a Work At Home Mom is a challenge. I love my schedule but find the noise level very distracting. When my boy cries or laughs i want to see him, hold him or laugh with him. I know all I have to do is open my office door and take a peak but then my work load builds and builds.

My little man is changing so much everyday. Now that he is 9 1/2 months old he is high- fiving, dancing, saying dada all the time and even walking while pushing the laundry basket. I am so happy I get to share all his milestones here at home.

...gotta run I hear him now!

Beach Day

2009-08-04T09:19:00.002-04:00

WaterBoy

2009-08-04T09:18:00.002-04:00

Guess the Process

2009-07-13T12:52:00.004-04:00

I wanted to post some of my favorite pottery I am using at home. Can you guess the process I used on each of these? Firing, glaze etc.? Comment how you think I achieved these. I would love to hear from you!

Oldie but Goodie

2009-07-08T11:29:00.001-04:00

I'm all about video postings this week and I found this funny/positive one: Remember Wasssssup? I think we all do:

My Interview

2009-07-07T12:25:00.001-04:00

Untitled from Laura Irmis on Vimeo.

I'm BBbbaacckkk...

2009-07-07T08:06:00.007-04:00

...into pottery that is. I am wrist deep in mud these days and feeling very inspired. I purchased low-fire White Earthenware to fire here at my home studio using colorful low fire glazes with decals. And I plan on using a technique I have tried many times before..printing photography on my work.

When I graduated from Eckerd College in 2005, my senior thesis was the "Death Of Nature". I created these tall-lidded urns with a silk-screened photo of a palm on each one and then salt fired them at the campus kiln. The image came out very faint. The idea was to initiate conversation on how Mother Nature is dying, but with such a soft image, I felt like I never achieved my goal.

I learned alot during creating my urns but left the idea of photography and ceramics in the back of my mind since the contrast wasn't bold like I wanted. So here we are four years later and I am still intrigued to how it can happen. I found decals....instead of buying commercial decals I want to incorporate the 14 years of graphic design experience into my work. My plan is to create a collage in Photoshop of photographs, images and handrawn art onto a laser print decal paper. Then low fire the ware at my home studio with low fire glaze decoration.

Although I will miss the beauty of spontaneous markings with a salt-fire, I am excited to travel this new path! Here are photos of my work drying getting ready to sand and fire.

Mozart or Beethoven Perhaps?

2009-07-02T13:28:00.001-04:00

Untitled from Laura Irmis on Vimeo.

He's really on the move now!

2009-07-02T13:25:00.000-04:00

Scootin' along from Laura Irmis on Vimeo.

Healthy Snack

2009-06-27T08:06:00.003-04:00

Have you ever had something so wonderful you didn't want to forget it? Have you ever taken a photo with your camera or phone to remember the moment? Last week I had the most glorious snack ever, not to mention healthy.

My goal is to get in shape this summer, oops looks like I am behind schedule, so instead of snacking on fingerlickin' good chips and dip I thought I would eat better. I went to Natures Finest with the thought of buying healthy snacks, maybe power bars or something better for the family. I bought several protein bars to try... and this, my friend, was a blessing.

One of them was the tasty Optimum Bar. This delightful protein-packed fruit bar was so good that now I think $4.00 per bar is CHEAP. Ya, $4.00 per bar sounds crazy for such a small snack, I know, but this is 2 ounces of heaven.....just wait till you taste the goodness.

So here is the photo I took to remind me of what is was, what it looked like and to remind me to get another. Just thought I would share.

Freelance Graphic Design

2009-06-25T14:55:00.008-04:00

I guess you can say I am an entrepreneur by heart. I have worked for corporate businesses inbetween my escapades but I always felt I had a better grasp on the graphic arena than each boss. Seriously.

Before I became a mom I started several businesses. The first was called Afterimage Signs and Graphics. We shared a space with the Vitale Brothers, three very talented artistic brothers, and were slammed with work. Infact my husband even worked for us, I got to boss him around and we weren't even dating yet. We laugh about that now.

The second business I started was a skateboarding company called Gravel. We created clothing, decks, and sponsored a skateboarding team. I wore alot of hats and even got to shoot photography on film (one of my passions-see photos). We threw huge skateboarding contests through the state of Florida and had fun doing it. Sam worked for me again as our resident DJ during the contests. Fun times. While my current graphic design business laurairmis.com is going great I haven't found any position to hire him for, yet. Time will tell.

As a mom, I am lucky to be able to work from home. I work on my MAC in our office facing the backyard, the outdoors inspire me. I am pretty sure I am obsessed with my computer and find myself cleaning her everyday. My Mother-in-law babysits so I can focus and put all my energy into my work. I love what I do but the hardest part of freelance work is finding clients.

Most of my current clients are from word of mouth, which is a solid way to find and keep them. But new businesses looking for a logo seem to think graphic design happens with just a push of a button. Forget the fourteen years of experience and the expense of software, hardware etc. So instead of pulling out my hair I thought a should repost this article to explain the benefits of using a professional designer, like myself:

Avoid websites that promote ridiculously cheap logo packages. You get what you pay for.

A professional business should look professional. New business owners often invest a lot of time and money in property and equipment, but do not often match it by investing suitably in their logo.

Here are the most common reasons why many logos look amateurish:

The business owner wanted to save money by designing the logo quickly themselves.
A friend or relative who claims to know a little about graphic design does it as a favor.
The wrong people are commissioned. (Local printers are not likely proficient in logo design.)
The business outsourced the job via one of several design competition websites, which are mostly populated by amateur designers.
The job was given to an online company that offers really cheap logos.

All of the above can result in disastrous outcomes. If your logo looks amateurish, then so will your business. A business should know where to look when it wants a new logo. David Airey offers great insight on how to choose the right logo designer for your requirements.

Here are the advantages of hiring an established and professional logo designer:

Your logo will be unique and memorable.
You won’t run into any problems down the line with reproducing it.
Your logo will have a longer lifespan and won’t need to be redesigned in a couple of years.
Your logo will look professional.

There I said it :)

You Capture. Summer.

2009-06-25T11:28:00.009-04:00

Ah Summer. How I love thee.

What day is it?

2009-06-22T08:11:00.007-04:00

Celebrating Father's Day is new to me. I am lucky enough to have found a passionate husband that has evolved into an amazing father as well. Since our baby boy is only 8 months, this was Sams first time celebrating Father's Day, i just hope I made it special enough. There is alot of pressure to create a day in his honor, I mean I don't know what to do or say.

Growing up, I had a step dad but he wasn't into celebrating holidays. My mom always took the role of both parents. She is a strong, independent woman who doesn't put up with ANYONE. I strive to be so thick-skinned. So being a Father to our Son is something that brings tears to my eyes. I want Mitchell and Sam to be close. I can already tell they will be.

So we started the day with a card from Mitch and a photo book from shutterfly showcasing Mitch and daddy, he loved it. Then we went swimming, swinging and set up the garden. We had a great dinner but then I fell asleep to the movie Valkrie at like 8:30.....sorry hubby. This baby is wearing me out!

So here is my question to all of you, how do you have energy for the baby, your partner and yourself? Or maybe there's an app for that?

P.S. Photo is by Meghan Warman, an amazing photographer.

Haves and Have Nots

2009-06-15T10:45:00.003-04:00

Here is my list of things i have been procrastinating about or haven't found the time to do now I that I am a Mom.

I have not cleaned the house lately

I have not put on makeup in weeks

I have not danced in FOREVER

I have not been to the movies in months

I have not finished up a job for a friend

I have not called my long-time friends lately

I have not been to yoga in weeks, no make that months

I have not finished up our photo book

I have not visited my Mom lately

I have not had my hair done in over a year (I can't believe that one)

I have not been shopping for me in a very long time

Boy, my priorities sure have changed!

Independent Baby Boy#2

2009-06-13T12:12:00.005-04:00

So walkers are bad for babies...that's what all the articles say. I can understand if your baby is alone but i watch everything Mitch does so when we received a walker as a gift we were excited. It's so funny to watch him move around the house with his gained independence and quirky legs. Watch out kitty's, Mitchell is on the loose!

Gettin Historical on your Arse

2009-06-11T08:57:00.005-04:00

Guess i owe it to my visitors to show some historical photos of our trip to St Augustine since it IS the oldest established city and port in the continental US.

But more importantly is how did Datil Pepper sauce begin in St Augustine (my hubbys favorite, we buy atlest 4 jars everytime we visit)

Thanks wikipedia:
The hot and flavorful datil pepper was brought from Cuba to St. Augustine in the 1880s by jelly manufacturer S.B. Valls. It flourished in dooryard gardens, and became a distinctive element of local cuisine, particularly associated with the Minorcan families. Minorcan clam chowder, pilau (a rice dish), tomato-based hot sauce, Minorcan sausage, and datil pepper vinegar are some common uses. In the late 20th century a number of commercial manufacturers began presenting datil peppers to a national audience, and there is an annual Datil Pepper Festival.

and now that i know there is a festival celebrating this delicious sauce i'm sure we will plan our next trip accordingly.

Girl Talk Thursday

2009-06-11T07:43:00.005-04:00

Girl Talk Thursday 1

This weeks topic is Self Esteem and Sex

As a general rule, the better i feel the better the sex. I believe self esteem and sex go hand in hand.

Mitchell's First Trip

2009-06-10T12:42:00.007-04:00

What a weekend! It was our 4th anniversary so we traveled to St. Augustine once again. Mitch did great on his first road trip, minus a stop or two for eating and changing. He did alot of firsts on this trip. He saw the waves of an ocean for the first time, ate sand, saw the historic forts and even visited Mc Donald's for the first time. He got to smell the aroma of deep fried fries and all their glory. I'm sure that will be the first and last time at the golden arches (ya right).

I Wanna Rock N Roll All Night, Still

2009-06-02T09:17:00.005-04:00

I have been wondering what type of mom I would be since i was like...13 or something. Becoming a Mother was always at the top of my to-do list. I couldn't wait to stroll around my baby boy all glowy and happy. I look back and think my God i am happy my birth control worked!

I'm 34 now and Mitch is 7 months old. I can't imagine having a baby at a younger age. Let me rephrase that, I can't imagine having a baby at MY younger age...i only feel 24 now.

When i was younger, i really lived it up. I partied, worked (with constant hangovers), traveled, enjoyed wake boarding and surfing anytime some said "Wanna?" I practically lived at the beach and did I mention I partied?

My husband did the same. He lived in Tally and partied FL-State style, played guitar and worked with hangovers as well. In fact, when we met in 93' we began to party together, goto concerts and really got to know each other as friends. I believe that's the foundation our relationship is based on to this day. So once we had Mitch, I wanted to celebrate with a great concert, but there weren't any during the fall. Which worked out fine because my fat thighs couldn't fit into my tight jeans anyway. Time passed and then NIN and JANES ADDICTION came to town. You must understand what this meant to me. I've seen NIN but Janes Addicition was my ultimate favorite band back in the day and broke up before I got a chance to see them. I was so excited! We had so much fun sneaking up front, singing along to everysong. We felt young again, even though we left early to beat the traffic and got home before midnight...it's so ridiculous how happy i was that we beat the traffic....

These days, when we talk with younger folks I've noticed we rant on and on about what concerts we've seen or what drinks we had at specific concerts.... all to fit in, or reminisce, i guess. I can see it in their eyes....the wonderment of what classic band we are referring to.....oh well I guess it's our badge of proof we were cool once... whatev.

My Boys of Summer

2009-06-01T12:17:00.005-04:00

And Summer Begins...
Our first summer as parents has begun. Yep, its official. The beach is no time for relaxing anymore. No time for crisp, cold beers, no time for listening to the best song ever and closing my eyes as the sun warms my body, no time for talking about nuthin' as the beer kicks in, so guess i should get over it...ah, those were the days.

This summer our pool is much more relaxing than the beach. Less people, less driving and carrying that ridiculously heavy car seat through the sand. We are always just 5 steps away from refreshing, yet sometimes brisk, water.

Trust me, I am still looking forward to going to the beach by summers end once he can swim and walk!

Dude, I smell like a man

2009-05-29T09:18:00.004-04:00

I have been reading mom blogs and LOVE how frank they are.The cussing and hard knock reality facts are so funny and entertaining. So I thought I should do the same, I mean my list goes on and on about things I can vent about so here goes:

I smell like a man.
It all started when I got pregnant. Even though we were trying, I had no idea we had conceived hours before my trip to Reno but looking back there are some obvious clues.

I traveled to Reno for work for 4 days and apparently right before that I became impregnated (I love that word). Now, I realize why I had such trouble sleeping on the soft, fluffy hotel bed and how I continued to have hot flashes during the entire trip (keep in mind this is in February). But the biggest clue was when my hubby picked me up at the airport and I had to have the a/c on full blast. Sam is NEVER cold but he redirected the a/c vents toward me, BIG CLUE.

Here’s the deal, 16 months later I still sweat a lot and seriously smell like I have never before. At first I thought well, I just had a baby and my hormones are still tweaking…then I thought well, perhaps it’s a mammal thing so my baby will recognize my stinch, I mean smell. But here we are and my baby is 7 months old and…..dude.

Through all of this, I did figure out some minor things like deodorant expires. Did you know that? I was clueless and read on the container that it’s over a year old. “AH ha, that MUST be it”, I thought. So I resorted to using my hubby's deodorant, because there is no way his is expired, but no such luck. At the end of the day, my pits still smelled like cooked rotten onions, gross.

My next step? Have my glands taken out or buy new deodorant. I can’t believe I have used the same brand since I hit puberty. Its time to buy a Woman’s deodorant…I must kill this stink!

Outside is for the birds....and us

2009-05-28T13:43:00.002-04:00

Every morning i enjoy my coffee as Mitchell and i swing on our bench swing under our green canopy tree.

This Strangler Ficus Tree, which i sware will be the end of my husband, is B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L. My husband and i debate whether it's worth keeping because of the constant berry and leave droppings into the pool. Yes its a pain, but the beauty it gives me and Mitch in the mornings is priceless. We swing in the cool breeze and listen to all the different birds waking up.

Life is grand with coffee and my baby boy on my lap.

2009-05-27T21:15:00.003-04:00

My friend from forever just came over because she could hear it in my voice. I hadn't returned her call because i am still trying to breathe through this rough patch of Mitchell and his sleeping habits and the 24 hour a day job of being a mother. Sometimes i simply forget that this will pass and he will sleep through the night, but she reminds me. She also reminds me of all the fun we had "back in the day" and that helps me getaway and drift off back to those selfish days. Like how much she loved wearing overalls, or how I matched EVERY outfit to my slouch velvet boots. Eitherway, we thought we looked hot.

Yes, she came over to get away from her life, and yes she came over to have some wine but she still came over. I love my friend.

Independent Baby Boy

2009-05-27T08:36:00.006-04:00

Hold on to your hats people, Mitch is on a mission!

I sware, just when i think i have Mitch figured out, a new milestone happens. It's super cool but throws me for a loop everytime. It's exciting to see what new things Mitch can do but now i can't even hold him anymore. He is so independent.

His old toys are of no use to him. The fun playmat with links is too small and now he grabs the whole playmat and shakes it to watch the links rattle...it is so funny. OH and that new phase of sitting is old news.

He has begun his first phase of crawling and our house is not ready at all. I mean, we bought all the baby proofing gadgets but between cooking, cleaning (ya right) and trying to catch a nap here and there, we haven't had time to set any of them up....and now he's on the move.

Wish me luck!

Progress

2009-05-20T13:48:00.005-04:00

Last week was quite a growing experience for me and Mitch. He taught me alot about myself, like how to be more patient and to understand his body language even better. After exactly 8 days of no swaddle and not feeding him everytime he awakes, his night wakings have reduced dramatically. For now, I am well rested and he has learned to soothe himself plus, sleep on his belly.

His appetite is growing and we have increased his solids to twice a day now and he loves yummy yummy food time in his big boy high chair. Some of the new foods include watermelon, cantalope, and water from a sippy cup. So things are much better in Lauraland, ready to rock and roll baby!

Let Me Tell You About MY Doula

2009-05-04T11:09:00.007-04:00

Since May is International Doula Month I thought it would be a great time to explain what a doula is and the incredible benefits of having one, no matter what type of birth experience you desire.

Before I begin, perhaps you should understand the true definition of the word doula according to the site www.dona.org
Birth doulas offer emotional support, encouragement and wisdom throughout labor and birth. There are also postpartum doulas, which support women and families through the transformation that a new baby brings to a family.

My Definition: Complete support with birthing experience.

My Experience:
Throughout my pregnancy, I had been doing research on everything from hospital interventions to water births (still researching for baby number two on that subject). You name it and I bet I have the book on it. Since me and my husband wanted to have a baby OUR way and not the way the medical field expects, we wondered if a doula could persuade our path to the nurses. But since we were practicing the Bradley Method of delivery, we weren’t sure if a doula would interrupt our plan or if it was overdoing it. We thought why not call some local doulas and find out exactly what they do.

After interviewing three doulas and asking them all the same questions one stood out, Robyn Cullen. For one, she was very open minded to any thoughts I had on My Birth Experience. In fact, that’s how she put it, “this is YOUR experience I am only here to help”. But to top it all off when she told me she had 6 children all unmedicated like we wanted to achieve, we signed her up! She has been through and supports all types of births including planned c-sections. She has told me many stories about how happy her clients were to have her there to help during sensitive times.

The other bonus about Robyn Cullen is that she is beyond just a birth doula. She provides lactation consulting, which I never needed since she was there to latch him on right away and also postpartum, if needed. To this day, she encourages baby wearing and I consider her a friend. I mean, who else would stop by holding the largest Coffee Coolota I have ever seen to help me through my day with sleepless nights? She has seen me (and I mean all of me) at my worst (during the final pushing stages) and my best (when Mitchell arrived) and I consider her special in my heart.

If you have any questions about what a doula can do to support the biggest day in your life call Robyn, you will thank me for it! 727-481-7078

Robyn’s site: http://www.tampabaydoulaservices.com:
" Empowering You to Achieve the Birth You Want "

Solids

2009-05-03T09:22:00.003-04:00

So far Mitchell has tried cereal, bananas, sweet potatoes and Peas (all organic)..and he loves bananas, likes peas but spits out sweet potatoes .... Eitherway its yummy yummy fun time!

Giveaways

2009-04-30T10:37:00.004-04:00

There is a great website called "Your Mama Reviews" (big ups to my friends there!) But here's the great news, they have giveaways all the time! Infact today they are giving away $110 worth of DryBees cloth diapers.... MY FINGERS ARE CROSSED, my boy needs some new, hip diapers: http://bit.ly/bFr4H

My Personal Photographer

2009-04-30T09:13:00.005-04:00

As a photographer myself, I understand the importance of memories and top quality photography. I was lucky enough to have found someone with the same values: Meghan Warman visit her site here: www.warmanphotography.com

She has photographed the most important aspects in my life, my wedding, my baby shower and my infant. She has a skilled eye and vibrant personality. I want everyone to know what a great artist she is so i asked her about her background:

I have had a camera in my hand for as long as I can remember.
The beginning for me was my high school photography class. My dad lent me one of his cameras for the class, and I have never given it back. The camera got a bit dusty through college and for a while after when the real world intervened. Then for kicks I brought it along to a friends wedding. And that was it. I began to apprentice with a number of wedding photographers in Orlando before moving to the west coast of Florida and starting Warman Photography in 2001.

Weddings are special to me because not only do I get to share in the love that the bride and groom have with each other, but every wedding I attend strengthens my own marriage vows. And now that I have children, I see the importance of preserving those special moments as well and all the joys that come along with being a parent.

I consider myself a lifestyle photographer, capturing events as they unfold. Whether it be a bride seeing her groom for the first time or a newborns first smile. There may be times I suggest a location or situation, but for the most part, I want to see you as you truly are and how you interact with each other. I prefer not to have a studio so that I can make images in places that are special to you: your home, your favorite park, even the beach.
I love the relationships that I have fostered over the last 8 years and the peeks I get into the lives of my clients. Along the way clients turn into friends, friends turn into parents and take me along for the ride.

Contact her for any questions you have: mwarman@tampabay.rr.com

Thanks Meghan for all your talent!

Toes

2009-04-28T10:32:00.002-04:00

Tuesday Talk-a-lot

2009-04-28T08:42:00.003-04:00

I have decided since I don't have alot of time to write i will tackle all the random thoughts i want to write about but don't have the time:

Teething. Ah teething.... my lil' guy gets so frustrated lately and i can tell it's because he is still teething. No swollen gums yet but i know how fast they arrive, the first two came in within 24 hours of each other. I just hold him and breathe..

EC. blah. Haven't made much progress with this. These last several weeks his schedule has completely changed (since we introduced solids) so i just upped the anny in cloth diapers and have moved on.

Solids. Well it's going...i can say he likes bananas and he is very animated with sweet potatoes, its too funny.Next is...peas. I am SURE there will be some funny faces with those!

Let's see what else is on my mind...oh too late baby is up....

Bananas vs Toes

2009-04-22T11:27:00.003-04:00

Mitchell's diet is changing every week. He is eating bananas and...well.. his toes. Which i think is hilarious. Check out these photos!

Thoughts

2009-04-16T15:48:00.002-04:00

Note to self:
1. Skipping nap time makes for a rough night
2. Never assume the baby will be consistent
3. Accept help with the baby, any and all the time
4. Enjoy every moment, they go by so fast

First Tooth (teeth)

2009-04-08T09:44:00.003-04:00

After months of wet bibs, Mitchell's first tooth finally came in.... His bottom front tooth.. and as soon as we realized it the very next day his second tooth came in. Here is the best photo I could take, he moves around so much these days.

We feel so proud and agreed upon leaving a $1.00 under his pillow once he begins to loose them. I guess you could say we are big planners huh?

The EC Phenomenon

2009-03-24T19:10:00.004-04:00

I am fascinated with learning new attachment ideas to use with my baby boy. My latest is INFANT potty training or Elimination communication. Here are some facts I found on-line to help understand this concept:

The average baby boy in the United States gives up diapers at 39 months and the average girl at 36 months, according to a 2001 study by the Medical College of Wisconsin. (It typically takes eight to ten months for a child to go from complete reliance on diapers to being fully potty trained, the study found.)

While the notion of potty training a very young infant seems radical to many American parents, it's not a new idea. Before 1950, most children in the United States were toilet trained by 18 months. And today, most African, Asian, and European babies are trained well before their second birthday.

I have been attempting this EC phenomenon and have yet to succeed. I bought the baby toilet but everytime i set him on it he cries..Perhaps it's uncomfortable. When i set him on the big boy toilet he just looks around in amazement....I'm not giving up.

I joined this group too:

http://www.parttimediaperfree.com/Part-Time-Diaper-Free-course.htm

Cloth diapers are going better these days, infact I purchased four AIOs ..can't wait to see how easy those are..I just know we can get greener!

Tweetin' and Bloggin'

2009-03-20T14:19:00.005-04:00

I am now tweetin' and bloggin' and lovin' it, I only wish I had more time to do it. My boy sure keeps me busy. As you know from my past entry, I am a fan of wearing my boy. So another friend and blogger www.mommymelee.com has really interested me in joining in on a contest to win my favorite wrap of all.....a MOBY.

They are so confortable! And they are so popular I can't even find any used ones anywhere, not even Ebay..so Im on the train to winning one, check this out: http://ourlifeupstate.blogspot.com/2009/03/moby-wrap-giveaway.html or click on the "our life upstate" button to the left.

Quite the personality

2009-03-17T19:15:00.005-04:00

Besides the twinkle of his nose before he smiles or the monster sound he makes when he wants out of his chair, Mitch is really becoming his own. Each day I see more and more of his personality shine through. Instead of crying he will just look at me and grunt loudly, its very amusing. I react quickly, he likes that....he says jump and i say how high? It's really an awesome relationship, I am really getting to understand my lil' boy.

Here are some shots i took today.

Big Boy Pants

2009-03-11T19:38:00.003-04:00

Seems as if my baby boy is all grown up in his new pants!

He likes to move it move it

2009-02-25T10:40:00.003-05:00

2009-02-10T20:32:00.003-05:00

Every day Mitch is doing something new...now he is busy using both arms and hands. Here are some recent photos of his first grabs caught on camera...

He learned it from watching us

2009-01-26T11:41:00.003-05:00

Is television bad for you like they use to say? Here i go feeling old for myself....but really what's so bad about it? The lights, the action....the quick videography that's so popular these days...... Unless you raise your kid like "Chip Douglas" from Cable Guy (btw, best movie next to The Big Lebowski) than i think it's very entertaining. I don't expect to hear Mitch saying, "You were never there for me were you mother? You expected Mike and Carol Brady to raise me! I'm the bastard son of Claire Huxtable! I am a Lost Cunningham! I learned the facts of life from watching The Facts of Life!" Mostly because those are from the 80's, but you get the idea. So we have concluded that our son learned it from watching us and that's why we can't get him to stop watching the boob tube.... perhaps it's his destiny to become some radical TV star, or better yet Music Video Star! Until then, I promise to keep his TV time limited.

This concludes our broadcast day. Click.

Talk and cough

2009-01-26T10:54:00.002-05:00

I think we got a talker....

Gettin' Granola

2009-01-21T08:42:00.003-05:00

I guess you can say my inner hippy surfaced when i became pregnant. I wore skirts and comfortable hippy shirts...while reading ingredients in my food and making better choices. I mean, i use to own some Birkenstocks and have thought about getting another pair but until i became pregnant, I wasn't one with my granola side. Sam and I have always wanted to be greener, but it took Mitchell being born to give us a swift kick. As parents we knew we had to raise him with awareness so we began to recycle. Thanks to our recycling friends (thanks Adam and Andi) we found a local company, St Pete Recycling Solutions, to pick up our recycles for really cheap. I must say, the amount of recycling we do is astonishing. A real eye opener to think of how much we have wasted in the past.

After three months of disposable diapers, we have finally taken our Greener lifestyle further and purchased cloth diapers. See how great they look on him!

After doing some research, we found out it takes between 200-500 years to decompose disposable diapers. That means our great great great great grand children would still be living with Mitch's very first diapers. YUK! Here's more information.

Rock & Roll

2009-01-20T10:15:00.002-05:00

I believe you can never start to early. I was playing my drum solo from Black Smith's Pain (HA) to Mitchell yesterday and had to get a shot of his first time behind the kit..Of course Sam wants him to play guitar first ..but until he can hold up that weight, I will start teaching him drumming. Oh my little drummer boy!

Mitch talking chapter 2

2009-01-19T14:57:00.003-05:00

2009-01-15T13:20:00.003-05:00

This Motrin ad maybe old news to some of you and infact they have created an apology since the release of this commercial many moons ago but, since i am in the advertising industry i will always be insulted by such ridiculous claims. Yes I am a babywearer and love it for many reasons. The best is how happy it makes Mitch. He loves just hanging out and watching new things, infact as i write this he in my ring sling and watching (and hiccupin' as usual). My point is to remember to think on your own and not let corporate America influence such personal decisions, especially when its against mothers bonding.... haven't we learned how important that is (i.e. Kangeroo Kare)? Guess this is my thought for the day. WEAR ON!

Don't buy Motrin

2009-01-15T13:18:00.000-05:00

Double Take

2009-01-09T19:53:00.002-05:00

Rollin' Rollin' Rollin'

2009-01-09T19:22:00.003-05:00

It's offical, Mitchell has rolled over. This afternoon he rolled over again and again..I am so excited to share..

Disastrous Day

2009-01-06T12:25:00.003-05:00

As a new mother i'm still learning. I proudly take on that responsibility and have completed more research in 2008 than when i was in college. Waking up yesterday was good, Mitch is sleeping through the night now (nice Christmas present eh?) and everything was on track. Until the new phase of vitamin supplement (highly suggested by our pediatrician) entered our day...ugh This evil is called Poly-vi-sol, ya i should have known by the name. After dressing Mitch for the day i thought it would be a good time to introduce this potion. It smelled of iron and metal but tasted even worse.

My thought was get it pass his tastebuds straight to the back of his throat and it would be smooth sailing. It worked, at first. After it went down, his eyes got watery and he gave a couple of those shakes..you know like when you do a shot... Poor thang. He was such a trooper and for about 2 minutes i thought we were in the clear. As i happily praised him an explosion of white and yellow projectile poured all over him. I was so upset.

Guilt set in and I knew my research would always be essential. Turns out, sunlight is all he needs. Considering we are in the sunshine state, thats an easy fix. To hell with PoLY-Vi-SoL!!!

That's a picture before the evil potion:

Mitchell expressing himself

2009-01-05T11:27:00.002-05:00

Recently Mitchell has been voicing his opinion about football (why the bucs did so badly), about his toys, and mostly about life in general. HA! Listen here you'll see what i mean.....

Mornin' Mitchell

2009-01-03T16:17:00.003-05:00

Waking up Mitchell is my favorite!

My Birth Experience

2009-01-03T14:16:00.007-05:00

On Thursday, October 23, Sam took me out to celebrate my birthday and meet his mother and aunt at a surprise location. That location turned out to be Mitchell’s Fish House, how appropriate I thought! The second we sat down to order dinner, I began feeling a new sensation of light waves of pressure. Since my due date was three days away I thought this must be pre-labor. These contractions were very subtle and lasted throughout the night without any discomfort.

The next day was normal and pre-labor continued. We went to our weekly doctors visit around 3:00 and were told I was 90% effaced and 1” centimeter dilated. We were very excited but I still didn’t think anything would happen yet. That evening while watching television, I felt the contractions getting stronger. I could no longer pay attention to Americas Next Top Model and their trivial pursuits, I mean, I was getting ready for real life stuff! So off went the TV and on went our laboring music that Sam had thoughtfully picked out. We dimmed the lights, got out my laboring ball and began using all the techniques we had learned in our Bradley laboring classes. By midnight we knew this was it! We called our doula Robyn and she came over to help. After about 1 1/2 hours I felt like we should head to the hospital and off we went in the pouring rain!

It was about 1:30 am once we got to the hospital and we found out I was only at 2” centimeters dilated. We requested the only room with the jacuzzi tub, thankfully it was available. As soon as we were admitted I got in the tub to continue laboring, all modesty was out the door. My doula suggested moving around more and after several hours of walking through the hall and using a birthing ball to help with labor, they checked me and I had not progressed. Our nurse and doula advised that we head back home to continue to labor and try to sleep. We went home, I slept for about 2 hours in and out of strong contractions. Then with Sam’s help, I labored in the shower and even tried to eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich he prepared. After laboring in what seemed like every single room in the house, at 11:30am we went back to the hospital. I was getting very strong contractions at this point but an epidural was never a thought. I was focused and knew it was time to meet our son. To our dismay, I was only dilated at 3” centimeters. Boy were we bummed.

Once we were admitted again, my doctor broke my waters in order to help the labor progress, which really worked. Eventhough the contractions were very strong, I still had no thought of accepting an epidural. We were admitted and able to use the same Jacuzzi room, thanks to my doulas conversation with the nurse previously. Back to the tub I went. I really tried to focus on breathing, relaxing and trusting my body. During each contraction my doula told me not to push but that’s all I wanted to do! My body was taking over and pushing, I had no control over it. This was the hardest point for me. Needless to say the ring of fire was difficult but it was so short it didn’t compare to the agony of not being able to push.

Both Sam and Robyn really helped with massage and motivation and within 3 and half hours of strong mental focus and challenging discomfort of a natural birth, I felt the baby move down. I maneuvered to the bed and was told I was at 9 ¾” centimeters. I could finally push. I took a deep breath, grabbed my legs and happily pushed with every ounce of strength I had. After several minutes I reached down and felt the full Mohawk on my baby’s head as he crowned. (I'm sure the Rays hawk was to honor the Rays, our local baseball team which was gearing up to play the World Series that weekend, or atleast my husband thought). Once I felt his head, I became overjoyed, energized and invigorated! With Sam helping the doctor and gazing up at me with his amazement, he caught our son and placed him on my belly. The entire pushing lasted less than 45 minutes.

At 3:10pm on Saturday October 25th 2008, Mitchell Miles Irmis was born as a natural unmedicated birth weighing 7 pounds and 15 ounces. This experience was more beautiful than I ever knew it could be. Looking back, I realize how powerful the mind is once you achieve Zen and trust your body.

My Baby is a Scorpio

2009-01-02T11:20:00.001-05:00

Mitchell Miles Irmis was born on October 25, 2008 as a healthy baby boy weighing in at 7 pounds 15 ounces and 20.5" long. What an experience..more to come once i figure this bloggin thang out...